Several years ago, I worked with a very handsome guy whom I was attracted too.  We flirted with each other quite frequently around the workplace.  But, we both knew that it would not go any further because we worked together and relationships do not always work out when you work at the same firm. 

Eventually, I left the firm.  I decided that I was going to ask him out.  Yes, I did have a fear of being rejected.  I had seen photographs of his ex wife and she was very beautiful.  I could not compete with that.  Why would he be interested in me? I am not saying that I am an ugly duckling, but I think that I do fall short in the looks department.  I had to know whether he felt the same way about me as I did about him.

So, what did I do?  I went out with my sister for an evening and talked it over with her.  She told me that I should contact him and try to arrange a date.  After several glasses of wine I plucked up the courage to telephone him.  Boy was I glad when I got his answering machine!  I left a short message on his answering machine asking him to contact me if he wanted to go out with me sometime.